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Separation Anxiety - It's For Real!

Separation anxiety is real for me.

I am a social animal. I have a big family and really enjoy being around them. There is always activity at my house and there is always someone around to walk me, play with me or give me a treat.

However, one family member does travel on occasion. So, anytime I see the suitcase come out, it bums me out. I get a bit despondent and you would swear I am behaving as though I am depressed.

I usually get over it after a couple days. Then, we have a really fun reunion when he comes home.

Separation anxiety is indeed a real condition for some of us.

Bad Behavior

Some of my friends out there respond with behavior that is worse, or more annoying, than simply moping around for a couple days.

Dogs may be very noisy - crying, whining, barking or may even become destructive when left alone.

This can not only be difficult for your neighbors, but also for your dog.

Your guy can go a little crazy, scratching at doors and windows, trying to escape for a reunion with you. He may even have "bathroom accidents" in the house when he is well housebroken.

Keep in mind that your dog is not trying to make you mad or get back at you for leaving them. This is an anxiety attack and their response has to do with them acting out their distress.

How You Know It's Separation Anxiety

Your dog exhibits this poor behavior only after having been left alone.

But, it can also be the result of some other situations. Think "separation."

It can occur after moving to a new home or after he spends time in boarding, away from his home and you. A new pet in the home can also cause it.

If you sense your dog is anxious, try to find the underlying reason, rather than assuming that animals don't have those types of feelings.

What You Can Do About It

Don't make a big deal about leaving or coming home. Stay calm during your departure and reunion. Don't overdo the "good-bye" or the "arrival celebration."

You can try leaving an article of your worn clothing in their bed, so your scent stays with them.

Get your dog accustomed to hearing that you'll be back. Choose whatever simple phrase you like and be consistent. After a few times, your dog will understand and associate that phrase with your leaving, and anticipate your return. Really!

As always, you need to make sure your dog is getting plenty of exercise. A well exercised dog is more content, will sleep better and stay out of trouble.

If you can, be sure to give him a nice long walk before you go away. Also, be sure he is well fed.

What If It's Really Bad?

In very difficult cases, you can consult with your dog's Doc about the possibility of drug therapy. This certainly only treats the symptom and should only be used as a temporary measure to avoid destruction in your home prior to finding a final solution.

You could also try taking your dog to a kennel and board him while you're gone. You could leave him with a friend or family member.

All of these are temporary solutions until you can try to sort this out.

Finally, seeking the help of a professional trainer may be the right alternative. Also be sure to consult with your dog's Doc regarding this condition.

What Not To Do

Do not punish your dog as a response to his separation anxiety.

Crating him, or locking him up in some other way, will not help either. These options could, in fact, make his separation anxiety worse.

However, if your dog has been crate-trained and still sees the crate as his "indoor dog house," it could be a solution for a short period of time.

This is a specialized condition that may require specialized help, particularly if the behavior is severe.